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Myth vs Truth: The Eye Contact Thing

By Alex Lesage

MYTH: If they make eye contact, they can’t be autistic.
TRUTH: Autism isn’t defined by one trait — it’s a spectrum, not a checklist.

Too many parents second-guess themselves because their child doesn’t “look” autistic to others.

But autism isn’t always loud. Or obvious. Or textbook.

Some kids make eye contact. Some don’t.
Some love hugs. Some avoid touch.
Some talk nonstop. Others stay quiet for years.

It’s not about ticking boxes — it’s about understanding how your child experiences the world.
Every kid is different. Every journey is valid.

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